thoughts about transitions in life
“Did you choose the worst one?” she asked, half chuckling and half bewildered. I stood for a moment bewildered by the question, caught frozen by existential dilemma because it could apply to so many things in life: a moment, a relationship, or in this case, a grapefruit.
Read More The unfathomable life of an uneaten French pastry and other adventuresIt’s good sometimes to stop and take stock. I’m not sure I have ever been at a place in my life where I had both time and money.
Read More Learning to PlayFor now, though, I am reminded that I don’t have to do this alone. Learning patience is something my mind has struggled with, but it’s easier knowing I am surrounded by people who love me. The older timers have always loved to remind me to keep living my life and more will be revealed.
Read More Wait and See, togetherLast week was a week, for sure. I’m thinking about next steps for my career, my relationships, and my financial well being, and I’ve struggled to know which way to go.
Read More Simply Made A DecisionIn the end, it’s not about the lack of struggle that helps in recovery: it’s about the experiences. A point in time will come when some struggles with the loss of friendship, problems at work, or a dying parent, and I can provide my support.
Read More Quiet your soul, prepare for the stormWhen I sat down to work on my inventory – we call it this so we can our strengths and weaknesses on paper, in a way that they do not distort our thinking. We can clearly see who we are. As I answered questions about honesty in my family, I began to realize how much of my life has been wrapped in silence.
Read More Listen to the space between the chatterI am grounded now, and I understand that my mind – and I love my mind, however mischievous – buffers itself from pain and grief by changing the narrative. It’s great to be a writer, but being a human being living real life sucks sometimes. That is the task before me moving into the next year.
Read More Learning to SoarAll to say, 2016 is ending on a sharply difficult note. Nothing is impossible when the mechanics of the universe run as they do, but life marches on. We realize that things never stay the same – they resist our temptations to tame them. That goes for our thinking, our behavior, our attitude.
Read More Stronger inside, more peaceful outsideIn essence, to be codependent is to allow the behavior of another to affect you AND obsess about that person’s behavior to the point of trying to control that person’s behavior.
Read More Clingy, even constrictingWhen the program talks about getting down to causes and conditions, I always understood this to mean we begin to identify those things that set us spinning in the first place. Once addicts begin to spin, the force and destruction that results can be detrimental not only to us but the ones around us. It seeps into our work and personal lives in insidious ways. And that destruction need not result from substance use; our illness is a mental illness. It’s our thinking that derails.
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